Day 20 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge; half way through! Today’s is a story of having to adjust to the world when it turns out people aren’t at all who you thought they were. It is my story.
Day 18 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. Yesterday, we heard a courageous story of what it was like to grow up in a household with someone battling alcoholism. Today, Penny has shared her story of growing up in a household with a parent suffering from Bipolar. It’s a frank and highly personal story which truly highlights the impact of living with mental health, and the dire need for the right kind of support. Continue reading
Day 15 of my 40 Day Blog challenge. So I’m two weeks into the challenge, although I should really say we are two weeks in. I have been blown away by the number of people who have already contributed to this blog and what started out as quite a naive idea for Lent, is beginning to take on a life of its own.
So today I thought I’d pause for thought. We’ve heard a number of stories, most from people I know, and most I wasn’t aware of.
And that’s the point isn’t it. Most of the time we soldier on, suffer in relative silence and can feel so alone.
We often hear about the statistic that 1 in 4 of us will suffer some kind of mental health issue. Personally I believe this is more likely the number of people who end up gaining treatment/support for their mental health. The truth is, our mental wellness is very fluid, and even the most resilient of us can suffer poorer spells of mental wellbeing.
I liken it to having a cold, but mentally. For whatever reason, be it life events, trauma, biology, most of us will experience seasons in our life where we struggle to connect with our sense of self we are so used to. And this can be a really challenging time.
Some of us will suffer severe and enduring mental health issues such as schizophrenia, personality disorders (an awful way to label an illness), bi-polar etc. I imagine most of us think of these types of illnesses when we talk about mental health. Yet others of us, if not most of us, will go through seasons of varying mental health, and it seems that we still don’t have much of a language to be able to talk about this.
I am thrilled that through this blog, numbers of people have been able to talk about some difficult issues. Today I’d encourage us to think about our own mental health, to consider those times in our life when we have struggled and also to think about what helped to get you through, how did you get support, what helped things to change?
It is so important that we know the kind of support we need when we are struggling, and it helps us to know this in advance.
I’m really looking forward to hearing more of your stories, please do get in touch if you’d like to contribute.
Image: “The Birth Trauma Tree” courtesy of Emma Sasaru at www.UnfoldYourWings.co.uk
Day 14 of my 40 Day Challenge. Again we have a topic about which it seems so few people have much awareness: Birth Trauma. WARNING: the following story contains narrative about events which may act as a trigger for your own PTSD if you have had a similar experience. Thank you Dawn for being so brave in sharing this.
I had a happy marriage, an almost two year old and had just welcomed my second daughter in to the world by emergency C-Section. That sounds common enough right? But, unless from this point I get more graphic, you won’t be able to understand how and why for the next 11 months after this event, I suffered with PTSD from the minutes that followed. Continue reading
Day 12 of my 40 Day Challenge…
Today, Katie has shared about her experience with anxiety. This is something which affects so many of us, but very often goes either undiagnosed, or we simply don’t talk about it. Thank you Katie for taking the step to share this with us.
Day 11 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge, over 1/4 way through!
Thank you to the 4 amazing contributions to the blog so far. It is so lovely to hear other’s stories of living through real challenge and that these stories really are encouraging others. I’ve got a number of other contributions lined up, but there’s still plenty of room for more! Do get in touch if you feel you’d like to share your story (doesn’t have to be a new topic, as each story and experience is unique).
Today I’m going to attempt to answer a question, (or at least give my personal opinion) which someone emailed to me recently. It’s actually a really common question in the counselling realm and it’s a very well debated one… Continue reading
Day 10 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. I am amazed at the vulnerability with which people have decided to share with me on this blog; it has already been such a privilege. If you have been moved or encouraged by anything you read, I am sure the authors would love to hear from you; please do leave a message in the box below if you’d like to show your support.
Today Sylvia talks openly about her experience of emotional abuse.
Domestic Abuse: Sylvia’s Story
The 2013/14 CSEW (Crime Survey of England and Wales) found that, overall, 28.3% of women have experienced domestic abuse since the age of sixteen. I am one of the estimated 4.6 million women in the UK. Continue reading
Day 9 of my 40 Day blog challenge.
Today, Kate has courageously shared her journey through prenatal depression, a condition far less known about than it’s cousin postnatal depression. Thank you Kate for sharing so personally. It would be great to hear from others in the comments section who have suffered with this or similar… Continue reading
Day 8 of my 40 day challenge and I thought I’d check in and have a little think about the project so far.
I do this from bed as I left work early feeling terrible; I think I have the bug my daughter had on the weekend.
Looking at the challenge so far, it would be fair to say that I started it blind. I knew I wanted to do something productive but hadn’t given it much more thought than that.
I’d had a bit of success (for me) with the blog I wrote the day before I started (Brave) and was very optimistic. Then the stats crashed and ironically my post on Self Esteem was one of he least read. This really challenged me. Why am I doing this, is it for my own ego, does it really matter if people have read, shared, retweeted etc what I’ve written? It doesn’t.
Then something absolutely lovely happened. My wife asked to contribute something really personal (6th March). A friend shared it on Facebook. The stats boomed! It’s still getting more hits on it as we speak.
And conversations are happening about the blog, people are talking about their own experiences, and sometimes I am privileged enough to be able to see the threads.
And now a number of others have come forward, also wishing to contribute and share their own very personal stories.
I am so thrilled about this. Some are speaking about things publically for the first time which I find amazing and so humbling.
So if I could ask you a favour, it would be to keep an eye out for these guest blogs. When you see them, please comment, share and encourage both the writer and the other readers who may well be relating to what’s been shared.
So I’m sitting in bed, feeling physically terrible, but emotionally really content, as something wonderful is beginning to happen with this blog.
Thank you to everyone who has followed this to date, or who has contributed. I’m really excited to see what happens next.
Day 7 of my 40 day challenge.
January 2016 I posted by best ever time cycling up Ditchling Beacon, over a minute faster than my previous attempt! It was no Bradley Wiggins, not even on par with my peers, but it was my personal best.
A couple of weeks later it was a different story. It was like I had nothing to give, like I was struggling in a strong wind on a still day. Then the flu 😷. So that makes sense. Feeling much better by March but still hacking up some nastiness, I attempt a cycling event with my friends. And that’s when it all started. Continue reading