I Overcame Self-Doubt…

Dear+Self+DoubtDay 29 of my 40 Day blog Challenge (I found out today that Lent this year has more than 40 days, it has 46!! So my 40 Day Challenge is actually a 46 Day Challenge!!), who knew?! And if you did, why didn’t you tell me! 😉 This means there is plenty more room for your contributions 🙂

Today we have a lovely story from Susie about overcoming serious self-doubt:

I overcame self-doubt

Seriously, I think that as you grow, people’s perception of you can have a big impact on how you see yourself. As I grew up, surrounded by a family that had very little expectation of me, and not being pushed to do well at school or in any area, I never really had any confidence in myself or my abilities. Continue reading

Forgiveness & Healing…

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Day 28 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. A friend emailed me and said this might be a good subject.  Speaking from personal experience, this friend said that in their own life, emotional healing from past abuse and trauma began to be more complete, once they had come to a place of forgiveness. In fact, my friend wondered if:

“forgiveness is as close to a panacea as one can get in counselling”? Continue reading

Mental Health & Debt

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Day 27 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. I wanted to have a think about how mental health can impact on our financial wellbeing, and vice versa. I was looking around and found the following article from Martin Lewis of Moneysavingexpert.com. I think this article serves as a good introduction to the issue; hopefully, this will be something I think about a little more here on the blog before the 40 days is up.

Don’t forget, if you have a story, I’d still love to hear from you. The following is taken straight from Moneysavingexpert.com where you can view the full article and really helpful resource guide here.

A message from Martin

Be under no illusions. Mental health problems can cause severe debt, and severe debt can cause mental health problems. Continue reading

Molehills out of Mountains

Day 24 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. I’m really thrilled about todays post; Ed shares his story of how his experience of counselling has helped him to foster a more healthy relationship with himself. I still have 16 days left of this challenge and about 13 days still unaccounted for, so please please do let me know if you feel you have something you might like to contribute…

Molehills out of Mountains

‘Please fix me!’ My brain shouted inside my head as I nervously started to talk with the man sitting opposite me. My opening question was ‘have you done this much before?’ His answer was yes! I’m glad it was, this man is Justin and he was to become (and still is) my counsellor.  Continue reading

Not “OK”

Firstly, our thoughts must be with all those individuals and families affected by yesterday’s terrible events in Westminster. It has been a truly dark day. 

I had another blog lined up to post today but felt the need say something about the events of yesterday. Today’s will be a brief post. 

The events took place just less than 1/2 mile from my office in Westminster. I was in a team meeting at the time, oblivious to what what was happening. It was only when we checked the answerphone after the meeting that we all became aware. 

At first it was surreal. I called my wife to say I was ok. We all made our way out of the office and started our various journeys home. I got the 17.06 back to Sussex and the safety of my home and family, for which it feels I have never been more grateful. 

It was only during the evening that the reality began to sink in. I didn’t want to watch the news, and spent the rest of the evening feeling numb and subdued. 

That feeling remains with me this morning as I write this on the train heading back into Westminster. I could pretend everything was ok, but somehow, my small part of the world feels very different today. 

Thankfully I wasn’t caught up in the events yesterday; but they have certainly had an impact on me. I felt the need to share that, as I process what it means to work in the heart of a city which has no immunity in this era of terrorism. 

Of course, things will settle down and probably quickly return to “normal”. But for today, I acknowledge that I’m really not OK, and that is OK. 

Anxiety Attack…

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Day 22 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. When anxiety takes hold full force, it can be a terrifying and crippling experience. Today, Jack boldly shares his experience with a period of acute anxiety.

Acute Anxiety Attack

I had got to the place where I accepted that mental health issues affect people, but I wasn’t ready to believe that I would be one of them. Third child in as many years and we were not sleeping well. I was run down and had a virus. It was February 2015 and I was not prepared for what happened next. Continue reading

Mental health first aid

Day 21 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. Thank you to everyone who has supported this blog so far, it is so important we talk about and share our experiences of mental health and wellbeing. Please do keep sharing…you can contact me via the contact box found on the “About Counselling” page on this website.

I read a fantastic article on mental health first aid so have decided to share it today. I really love the points about genuinely listening and being slow to offer advice; we must not underestimate the power of simply being heard. 

Here’s the link: Mental Health First Aid

Crushed

crusherDay 20 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge; half way through! Today’s is a  story of having to adjust to the world when it turns out people aren’t at all who you thought they were. It is my story.

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The Cold Cure for Depression

cold water swimmingDay 19 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. One of the best things about working in the mental health field is hearing stories of how people have learnt to cope with and manage their mental health. If you have such a story (or any story relating to mental health/wellbeing) I still have plenty of space left to fill!

Here’s a remarkable story from Paul, of significant pain and resilience. **WARNING** the blog briefly references instances of extreme violence. If this is likely to trigger your own PTSD symptoms, then please consider reading this when you feel safe and able to manage this effectively.

The Cold Cure for Depression

If I told you that within 10 minutes I could cure your anxiety and depression I would imagine you’d tell me to go and ‘jump in a lake’ right?

Anxiety and depression can come from many sources, here is my own unique road to pain: Continue reading

Bipolar In The Family

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Day 18 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. Yesterday, we heard a courageous story of what it was like to grow up in a household with someone battling alcoholism. Today, Penny has shared her story of growing up in a household with a parent suffering from Bipolar. It’s a frank and highly personal story which truly highlights the impact of living with mental health, and the dire need for the right kind of support.  Continue reading