Taboo

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Day 35 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. So I am wondering about getting to day 39 and then taking a break until Easter Sunday. In the meantime I shall continue to collect new contributions (please keep them coming in!) and focus on getting more exposure to the contributions that have already been written. I shall also spend some time thinking about and planning what happens next, since this blog has attracted far more interest than I imagined it would. Watch this space!

Today, I’m going to reblog something simple I wrote a couple of years ago about the Taboo surrounding mental wellbeing… Continue reading

5000 views…?

Day 32 of my 40 (46) Day Blog Challenge. In case you are new here, let me fill you in . I decided to publish a blog around the subject of mental health and wellbeing every day for Lent. Mental health is such an important subject to be speaking about openly, and I wanted to see what would happen if I started this. Very quickly, lots of people decided to join in and write about their own experiences of mental health. It has been such a blessing. And thank you everyone who has participated so far. There are now just 2 weeks left to go.

So now I’d like to challenge you! Continue reading

Forgiveness & Healing…

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Day 28 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. A friend emailed me and said this might be a good subject.  Speaking from personal experience, this friend said that in their own life, emotional healing from past abuse and trauma began to be more complete, once they had come to a place of forgiveness. In fact, my friend wondered if:

“forgiveness is as close to a panacea as one can get in counselling”? Continue reading

Therapist Experience…

Day 11 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge, over 1/4 way through!

Thank you to the 4 amazing contributions to the blog so far. It is so lovely to hear other’s stories of living through real challenge and that these stories really are encouraging others. I’ve got a number of other contributions lined up, but there’s still plenty of room for more! Do get in touch if you feel you’d like to share your story (doesn’t have to be a new topic, as each story and experience is unique).

Today I’m going to attempt to answer a question, (or at least give my personal opinion) which someone emailed to me recently. It’s actually a really common question in the counselling realm and it’s a very well debated one… Continue reading

Domestic Abuse: Sylvia’s Story

Day 10 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. I am amazed at the vulnerability with which people have decided to share with me on this blog; it has already been such a privilege. If you have been moved or encouraged by anything you read, I am sure the authors would love to hear from you; please do leave a message in the box below if you’d like to show your support.

Today Sylvia talks openly about her experience of emotional abuse.

Domestic Abuse: Sylvia’s Story

The 2013/14 CSEW (Crime Survey of England and Wales) found that, overall, 28.3% of women have experienced domestic abuse since the age of sixteen. I am one of the estimated 4.6 million women in the UK. Continue reading

Hate

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had an increasing number of hateful posts in my Facebook feed recently. You know the sort, “this person is evil, share or repost so the whole world knows”. 

What’s sad is that many of these posts are from people I know, love or respect. It’s easy to be drawn into this stuff, especially when the cause seems justified. But have we considered the true emotional consequence of this behaviour?

There’s logic which says that we feel better about ourselves when justifiably putting others down. For a moment we feel we are good. But the truth is that we are buying into hatred, propagating division and clothing ourselves with something toxic. It does our emotional and spiritual wellbeing no favours. 

I saw another post in response to the recent trend of changing your Facebook profile picture so that it’s covered by the rainbow in support of gay rights. The originator of the post said they’d change their profile picture when people started promoting the cause of starving children in Africa, accompanied by a haunting image of a malnourished child. “Great response!” many  of us shout. Really? The starving in Africa is an important and entirely different matter. The two should not be contrasted. We continue to buy into hate by contrasting one issue (normally highly emotive) next to another issue with which we have a problem.  We are still feeding the divide. 

I really don’t believe we do ourselves any emotional favours by spreading these kinds of posts and ideologies. 

Remember the last time you gave your seat up for someone on the train? Or got involved with a meaningful project in the community? Or gave to charity until it hurt? Or decided to sponsor a child in poverty rather than belittle others supporting a certain cause? I bet it felt good. And it made a difference. Two things these hateful posts will never do. 

So please don’t be offended when I don’t repost certain things. But please do provoke and challenge me to do more of what I know is truly worthwhile.