Day 32 of my 40 (46) Day Blog Challenge. In case you are new here, let me fill you in . I decided to publish a blog around the subject of mental health and wellbeing every day for Lent. Mental health is such an important subject to be speaking about openly, and I wanted to see what would happen if I started this. Very quickly, lots of people decided to join in and write about their own experiences of mental health. It has been such a blessing. And thank you everyone who has participated so far. There are now just 2 weeks left to go.

So now I’d like to challenge you! Continue reading

The Cold Cure for Depression

cold water swimmingDay 19 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge. One of the best things about working in the mental health field is hearing stories of how people have learnt to cope with and manage their mental health. If you have such a story (or any story relating to mental health/wellbeing) I still have plenty of space left to fill!

Here’s a remarkable story from Paul, of significant pain and resilience. **WARNING** the blog briefly references instances of extreme violence. If this is likely to trigger your own PTSD symptoms, then please consider reading this when you feel safe and able to manage this effectively.

The Cold Cure for Depression

If I told you that within 10 minutes I could cure your anxiety and depression I would imagine you’d tell me to go and ‘jump in a lake’ right?

Anxiety and depression can come from many sources, here is my own unique road to pain: Continue reading

Therapist Experience…

Day 11 of my 40 Day Blog Challenge, over 1/4 way through!

Thank you to the 4 amazing contributions to the blog so far. It is so lovely to hear other’s stories of living through real challenge and that these stories really are encouraging others. I’ve got a number of other contributions lined up, but there’s still plenty of room for more! Do get in touch if you feel you’d like to share your story (doesn’t have to be a new topic, as each story and experience is unique).

Today I’m going to attempt to answer a question, (or at least give my personal opinion) which someone emailed to me recently. It’s actually a really common question in the counselling realm and it’s a very well debated one… Continue reading

Cream Crackered

Day 7 of my 40 day challenge.

January 2016 I posted by best ever time cycling up Ditchling Beacon, over a minute faster than my previous attempt! It was no Bradley Wiggins, not even on par with my peers, but it was my personal best.

A couple of weeks later it was a different story. It was like I had nothing to give, like I was struggling in a strong wind on a still day. Then the flu 😷. So that makes sense. Feeling much better by March but still hacking up some nastiness, I attempt a cycling event with my friends. And that’s when it all started. Continue reading

Inside Out…

Day 3 of 40 Day Challenge. I’m blogging about issues around mental wellbeing through lent and would love you to join in with inspiring stories, topics/suggestions for topics etc. Please feel free to follow this blog, comment share etc so we can encourage each other in this area over the coming weeks. You can also contact me privately via the Home page on this Blog site.

The first film I took my daughter to see at the cinema was Inside Out. It’s a lovely film about a young girl’s battle with her emotions as she comes to terms with big life changes. I’m sure most of it went over my daughter’s head, but I have to admit to shedding a tear at the end 😥.  Continue reading


I don’t know about you, but I’ve had an increasing number of hateful posts in my Facebook feed recently. You know the sort, “this person is evil, share or repost so the whole world knows”. 

What’s sad is that many of these posts are from people I know, love or respect. It’s easy to be drawn into this stuff, especially when the cause seems justified. But have we considered the true emotional consequence of this behaviour?

There’s logic which says that we feel better about ourselves when justifiably putting others down. For a moment we feel we are good. But the truth is that we are buying into hatred, propagating division and clothing ourselves with something toxic. It does our emotional and spiritual wellbeing no favours. 

I saw another post in response to the recent trend of changing your Facebook profile picture so that it’s covered by the rainbow in support of gay rights. The originator of the post said they’d change their profile picture when people started promoting the cause of starving children in Africa, accompanied by a haunting image of a malnourished child. “Great response!” many  of us shout. Really? The starving in Africa is an important and entirely different matter. The two should not be contrasted. We continue to buy into hate by contrasting one issue (normally highly emotive) next to another issue with which we have a problem.  We are still feeding the divide. 

I really don’t believe we do ourselves any emotional favours by spreading these kinds of posts and ideologies. 

Remember the last time you gave your seat up for someone on the train? Or got involved with a meaningful project in the community? Or gave to charity until it hurt? Or decided to sponsor a child in poverty rather than belittle others supporting a certain cause? I bet it felt good. And it made a difference. Two things these hateful posts will never do. 

So please don’t be offended when I don’t repost certain things. But please do provoke and challenge me to do more of what I know is truly worthwhile.